Technology can be used as a tool of coercive control. Because it is often invisible, it can leave someone feeling watched without knowing how.
Possible signs
- A partner knows where you have been without being told
- Demands for passwords or regular checks of your phone
- Unknown apps, shared location or linked accounts
- Monitoring through children’s devices or shared cloud accounts
Safety first
Changing settings suddenly can sometimes increase risk. Consider using a safer device to search for help, and use the Quick Exit button on our pages.
Considering a screening conversation?
Our IPV & Coercive Control Screening service offers a confidential, clinician-led conversation to help you understand your situation and possible next steps. Each person is screened separately, and you can share your safest way to be contacted.
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This article is for general education and is not a diagnosis, legal advice or a substitute for individual clinical care.
National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control is not a psychotherapy service.