
Many survivors say, “But he never hit me.” Emotional and psychological abuse can still cause deep harm, affecting confidence, memory, sleep and the ability to trust your own perceptions.
Possible signs
- Constant criticism, humiliation or name-calling
- Denying events you clearly remember
- Blame for the other person’s moods or actions
- Threats to leave, take the children or harm themselves
- Feeling like you are “walking on eggshells”
You don’t need to prove it
You don’t have to be certain or have evidence to ask for a screening conversation.
Considering a screening conversation?
Our IPV & Coercive Control Screening service offers a confidential, clinician-led conversation to help you understand your situation and possible next steps. Each person is screened separately, and you can share your safest way to be contacted.
Learn more about IPV & Coercive Control Screening →
If you are in immediate danger, call 911. For crisis lines and safety resources, visit Help Now.
Looking for self-paced survivor courses and resources? Visit linktr.ee/narcclinic.
This article is for general education and is not a diagnosis, legal advice or a substitute for individual clinical care.
Related support
If this article reflects your experience, Intimate Partner Violence Psychotherapy and Coercive Control Psychotherapy offer individual, trauma-informed support in Ottawa and virtually across Ontario.
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You don’t have to sort through this alone. When you feel ready, you are welcome to contact Raquel or book a consultation. If you are in immediate danger, call 911 or visit HELP NOW.
National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control is not a psychotherapy service.