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Signs of Financial Abuse in a Relationship

Financial abuse can trap someone in a relationship. Learn the signs and how screening can help clarify your situation.
Raquel Soteldo, RP, with the National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control (NCE-IPVCC) and Soteldo Psychotherapy Clinic logos
Raquel Soteldo, RP, with the National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control (NCE-IPVCC) and Soteldo Psychotherapy Clinic logos
Raquel Soteldo, RP — Soteldo Psychotherapy Clinic and the National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control (NCE-IPVCC).

Financial abuse is a common part of coercive control. It can make leaving feel impossible and affect safety planning, separation and mediation.

Possible signs

  • Being given an allowance or having to justify every purchase
  • Being prevented from working or studying
  • Debts taken out in your name without consent
  • No access to bank accounts, passwords or financial records
  • Money used as a reward or punishment

Why it matters in separation

Negotiating property and support is difficult when one person has controlled all the information. Screening can help identify this imbalance early.

Considering a screening conversation?

Our IPV & Coercive Control Screening service offers a confidential, clinician-led conversation to help you understand your situation and possible next steps. Each person is screened separately, and you can share your safest way to be contacted.

Learn more about IPV & Coercive Control Screening →

If you are in immediate danger, call 911. For crisis lines and safety resources, visit Help Now.

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This article is for general education and is not a diagnosis, legal advice or a substitute for individual clinical care.

National Center of Excellence for Intimate Partner Violence and Coercive Control is not a psychotherapy service.

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